Thursday, December 24, 2009

A New Kind of Nativity!

Nine Grandchildren, Dec. 2009

“And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger . . . And there were in the same country shepherds [and Luke Skywalker, along with three wise guys] abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock [and their doggies] by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid [some were wild and crazy, others stunned in silence].”

Monday, December 21, 2009

A Christmas Story

I love this time of year with all of the over sentimental, heartfelt, television Christmas movies. I can’t help myself and I watch them every year, no matter how cheesy or predictable. Of course nothing beats the classics, passed down from generation to generation, like “Miracle on 34th Street” (“Faith is believing when common sense tells you not to.”), “It’s a Wonderful Life” (“Teacher says, every time a bell rings an angel gets his wings!”), or “A Christmas Carol” (“God bless us, everyone!”), the three enduring movies from which all other Christmas plots derive! They are timeless, their messages universal, regardless of age. However no Christmas is complete without the traditional viewing of the 1983 classic, “A Christmas Story,” one of my all time favorites! The story depicts a little boy’s memories of his most unforgettable Christmas. It's Christmas time and there's only one thing on Ralphie Parker's Christmas list: a Red Ryder Carbine Action 200-Shot, Range Model Air Rifle! Many obstacles stand in the way of Ralphie’s dream, mainly the adults in his life who keep telling him, “You'll shoot your eye out, kid!”

Christmas represents various contrastive things to many different people. However a common bond we often share are the obstacles that threaten our perfect imagined Christmas vision. For some, Christmas brings memories of hectic shopping for hard to find gifts and added weight gain from eating too many holiday goodies. For others it brings sadness of loved ones lost and memories cut short before their time.

For me, Christmas has always been a magical time of year. It has never been about the weather outside or the money we had (or did not have) to spend. It has always represented a time for unexpected surprises and the joy of family, gathering together in celebration of their love, just like on the first Christmas so long ago.

My own parents always made Christmas special. My mother spent many sleepless nights making doll clothes and hand sewn Christmas dresses to wake up to. I remember being blindfolded while she tried on the clothing she was making, so I’d be surprised on Christmas morning. There was always at least one special present on the tree from Dad, identified by the mini chocolate Santa’s he adored his gifts with. One year I asked for a chimpanzee, after seeing one as a pet on a popular television show. Realistically I knew I wasn’t going to get a “real” clothes wearing, people understanding, furry, monkey companion to share my life. However, I put it on my wish list anyway. I was so surprised and excited when my dad’s chocolate adorned Santa gift turned out to be a life size baby monkey, wearing little white shoes and sucking his thumb! He was a pretend stuffed animal of course, but my love for my dad was genuine!

One of my most unforgettable Christmas’s with our own children was in 1976. Our little boy, Cordale, had just turned three that year, and his baby sister, Aleesha, was almost 10 months old. Dale had spent many late nights after work making a wooden train with 12-inch cars that could haul cargo and seat mini Fisher Price people. He was excited for Christmas Day when it would surprise Cord from beneath the branches of our pink, snow flocked Christmas tree. (At my request Dale had hand flocked our little tree “pink” in honor of our new baby girl, just as our tree had been “blue” when Cord was born.) While Dale was reenacting Santa’s workshop, I was busy making a pink, bunting clad, soft bodied, baby doll and a blanket to go with the beautiful wooden doll cradle Dale had also made for our new little girl.

Our December activities also included an invitation to go to California with Dale’s whole family for his sister, Joanne’s wedding open house. Not wanting to miss out on the family occasion and a trip to sunny California as well, I finished weaning my nursing baby, who began taking a bottle after some concentrated effort, and flew my little coop, leaving our two children in the hands of my loving mother.

It was the third wedding that year in Dale’s family, a year of wedded bliss his parents would not soon forget. That December, following Joanne’s Utah wedding and reception on December 18th, we all caravanned to California for the groom’s open house celebration. We were all part of the wedding party!

Things were going well and we were all having a great time. Unfortunately, right before we were to leave for home I got alarming news from my mother. My baby girl, Aleesha, was sick and even my experienced mother was frightened and wondering what to do. Aleesha had a tight cough that sounded like a “barking dog” and it was unlike anything my mother had experienced before. I gave my mother the name of my doctor and she made an appointment immediately. Aleesha turned out to have “croup,” an ailment unfamiliar in my family, but one very familiar in Dale’s family, and one I would come to know well in the years to come. Croup features a cough that sounds like a seal barking. Most children have what appears to be a mild cold for several days before the barking cough becomes evident. As the cough gets more frequent, breathing often becomes very labored, a recipe for scary, worried nights and continuous steam ridden bedrooms.

Dale and I left for home immediately. Dale drove all the way while I prayed and kept my frightened state of mind busy by putting the final hand stitches on the baby doll for Aleesha’s Christmas. We arrived home to a very sick baby with instructions from the doctor to bring her to the emergency room for a breathing treatment if she worsened in the night. In the wee hours of the morning we made our way to the hospital where life saving medicine opened up baby Aleesha’s lungs. That night Dale made a tent like covering over Aleesha’s crib and elevated the top of her mattress, pointing the humidifier inside, creating a “steam tent” to relieve her breathing. I vowed I would study nutrition and find ways to help my children in times of illness. I never wanted to be in a hospital of sick babies fighting to breath again . . . not if I could help it! (Later we found out Dale’s sister’s baby daughter, Nicole, only four months old, had also visited the hospital with a severe case of scary croup as well.)

Christmas morning was definitely memorable that year. The quilted material doll blanket I had tied with yarn was neatly tucked inside the beautiful wooden cradle, concealing the blanket’s still unfinished edges. The wooden train was nestled beneath the tree, not yet sealed with protective finish to keep away the dirt. However, Christmas was magical, as we witnessed it through the wonderment of our three-year-old son, and rejoiced in the renewed health of our baby daughter. We were blessed to be a family and to celebrate His birth by giving thanks for our own children’s precious lives.

I hope that whatever is on your Christmas wish list this year finds a place under your tree and that they’ll be some fun surprises there too. Perhaps you’ll write a new “Christmas Story” in your family catalog of memories as well. Just remember, what ever your Christmas story is and whatever you do, “Don’t shoot your eye out kid!”

“I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year . . . God bless us every one!” ~ Charles Dickens

Thursday, December 17, 2009

Ghosts of Christmas Past!


Some are naughty,


Some are nice,

Some are joyful,

Some come twice.

The magic of Christmas,

Is sweetest to see,

From the eyes of God's children

He entrusted to me. ~ Linda Ottley

"In this age of instant coffee, overnight rush deliveries, and 30-second media sound bites, it's not surprising that children have discovered that their letters to Santa can be sent by email!"
~ Patrick Flaherty, (Dear Santa)

Saturday, December 12, 2009

The Four Stages of Life

Santa and Ashley (1987)

1. You BELIEVE in Santa Claus.
2. You DON’T BELIEVE in Santa Claus.
3. You ARE Santa Claus.
4. You LOOK like Santa Claus!


“I stopped believing in Santa Claus when I was six. Mother took me to see him in a department store and he asked for my autograph.”
~ Shirley Temple, Child Actress

Monday, December 7, 2009

All I Really Need To Know I Learned From Santa!

Santa and Me (1955)

The bestseller book, "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten," by Robert Fulgrum, has encouraged numerous, anonymous Internet authors to take pen in hand and write their own versions of life knowledge gained. After all, why over-analyze life when it’s mysteries can be simple! Here’s the Christmas version of knowledge gained and life solved! Enjoy!

All I Really Need To Know I Learned From Santa!

1. Encourage people to believe in you.
2. Always remember who's naughty and who's nice.
3. Don't pout.
4. It's as much fun to give as it is to receive.
5. Some days it's okay to feel a little chubby.
6. Make your presents known.
7. Always ask for a little bit more than what you really want.
8. Bright red can make anyone look good.
9. Wear a wide belt and no one will notice how many pounds you've gained.
10. If you only show up once a year, everyone will think you're very important.
11. Whenever you're at a loss for words say, “Ho, Ho, Ho!”

“Whenever you give someone a present or sing a holiday song, you’re helping Santa Claus. To me, that’s what Christmas is all about . . . helping Santa Claus! ~ Louis Sachar

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Gratitude Rocks!

“Gratitude is the heart’s memory.” ~ French Proverb 



Carrying a “gratitude rock” in your pocket was made popular by the best selling book, The Secret. Presently you can find unique gratitude rocks in countless shapes, colors, and sizes on numerous websites. The gratitude rock story was about a man named, Lee Brower, whose life seemed to move at such a fast pace that he unconsciously ended up ignoring all of the wonderful experiences, relationships and blessings he had. So he began carrying (what he called) a “gratitude rock” in his pocket, in reality just a small, smooth stone that he picked up by a pond of water. Whenever he put his hand in his pocket and touched the stone—usually several times a day—it was a reminder to him to give thanks for something, usually something happening at that given moment, whether good or bad. Now he carries it with him where ever he goes!



A similar story was published by a writer for the Washington Post, as part of an experiment asking the question, “How many people would recognize beauty in a place where it wasn't expected?”

On a busy workday as commuters rushed toward their busy schedules in Washington, D.C., a 39-year-old man dressed in jeans, a T-shirt, and a baseball cap took out an old violin and began to play. Few people noticed. Most kept their eyes on the ground or looked straight ahead. A few, talking on cell phones, raised their voices in order to be heard over the music. These were, after all, busy people. They had work to do and appointments to keep. They did not stop and they did not listen. What they missed was a rare performance by one of the greatest violinists in the world playing his Stradivarius violin, worth more than three million dollars. He chose to play some of the most technically demanding, elegant music ever written for his instrument, and he played with all the passion and perfection that he had become known for throughout the world.

During the 43-minute concert, nearly 1,100 people passed by. Of those, only seven stopped to listen even for a moment. The writer, who won a Pulitzer Prize for his article about the unheard violinist, summarized the experience with these words: “If we can't take the time out of our lives to stay a moment and listen to one of the best musicians on Earth play some of the best music ever written; if the surge of modern life so overpowers us that we are deaf and blind to something like that--then what else are we missing?” (Lloyd D. Newell, "Music and the Spoken Word," Nov. 1, 2009, Broadcast #4181)

The world offers us daily moments of beauty that can enrich our lives—if we open our eyes and open our hearts! I was diagnosed with a devastating chronic illness, called Lyme disease, 14 years ago and my life has never been the same. The crippling effects of my condition make life a daily challenge. So . . . long ago I decided that just for today . . . every day . . . I'd choose to be in an attitude of gratitude for all God’s gifts. We get to choose how each day begins and receive the positive energy that accompanies our awareness and gratitude for all the many blessings in our lives.

It is amazing how this simple act of daily gratitude can change our perspective and, ultimately, our attitude. Instead of seeing the glass half-empty, it’s half-full. Instead of focusing on what we don’t have, lets focus on what we DO have—right now!



A very wise person once told me, “You won’t attract what you don’t have, until you learn to be grateful for what you do have.” The law of attraction does not focus on our lack—what’s missing, but instead focuses on gratitude for the gifts of life we already have!

So here’s a challenge for today—this season of thanksgiving. Push the “pause” button on your life and take a moment to write down 10 things you are grateful for today. Then grab your own “rock of gratitude” and carry it in your pocket to remind you to live in gratitude each and every day! Hold your gratitude rock in your hand and think about the people and things that you have in your life right now which you are grateful for. Think about the incredible experiences you've had as a result of having these special people and possessions in your life. When you do this on a consistent basis and start to associate the power of these experiences and the feeling of gratitude with your “gratitude rock,” you’ll begin creating a very formidable base from which everything else will grow.

Remember whenever you find yourself overwhelmed by life's daily stresses, all you need to do is to grab your gratitude rock and feel its positive energy to put yourself in the right state of mind immediately.
Each day we have a new canvas placed before us. How will we use it? Here’s what I’m grateful for today. What’s on your list?

My Gratitude Rocks:
1. My Savior; His unconditional love and sacrifice for me.

2. My husband, Dale, and 37 years of marriage, wisdom, dry humor, encouragement, love and support.

3. Our family, immediate and extended and the love they give.

4. Our home; I am warm, dry, and comfortable.

5. The fact that I have enough to eat today.

6. A family business thanks to the hard work of Dale’s parents.

7. Living in the age of technology, the Internet highway of information.

8. Good books to read and heartfelt movies to ponder!

9. Laughter and Sunshine—The Very Best Medicine!

10. Dark Chocolate! (You've read my thoughts about that on a previous blog.)

“Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much!”

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Happy Birthday Sweet 18!


Today’s the day you’ve waited for,
Because you're not a baby anymore.
You've turned into the prettiest girl we've ever seen,
Happy Birthday Sweet Eighteen!

What happened to that baby face,
Our little girl with curls and lace?
We can't believe you're such a teenage dream,
Happy Birthday Sweet Eighteen!

I have to smile with sweet surprise,
Somehow you've grown up before our very eyes.
You've turned into the loveliest girl we've ever seen,
Happy Birthday Sweet Eighteen!

Born in the month of gratitude, I’m proud to be your mother,
You’re our bright shiny star . . . like no other.
Now 18, on THIS—the 18th day . . . you're queen!
Happy Birthday Sweet Eighteen!

Wishing Happy Birthday to you,
Hope all your fondest dreams come true.
Happy Birthday Sweet Eighteen!
Happy Birthday Sweet Eighteen!


We Love You!
Happy 18th Birthday Kenzi!

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

The Gift Called Old Age

“Old age is when you still have something on the ball, 

But you are just too tired to bounce it!” ~ Author Unknown


As my husband and I approach the years that were promised to be “golden,” mourning the loss of his parents and watching mine go into assisted living, the prospect of aging looks daunting to say the least. Recently I received the following email message, forwarded from a friend. It’s just too good not to share. I was unable to discover it’s original author, but the message truly resonated within me. The timing to read this could not have been more perfect. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!



The Gift Called Old Age 



The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question and I would ponder it, and let her know.



“Old Age,” I’ve decided, is a gift! I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometimes despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt . . . and that old person that lives in my mirror often startles me! However I don't agonize over these things for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family, for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I have aged I've become kinder and less critical of myself. I've become my own best friend.

I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avant-garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging. Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4:00 a.m. and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60's and 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love, I will. I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful, but there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And eventually I remember the important things.

Sure over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or when a beloved pet gets hit by a car? However broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think! I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong!

So, to answer your question, I like being old because it has set me free! I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it)!

To all the Golden Oldies: “May you always have a rainbow of smiles on your face and in your heart forever!”

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Sisters, Sisters

“’Help one another,’ is part of the religion of sisterhood.”
~ Louisa May Alcott
[Pictured: My sisters, Vicki and Judy, and me!]

I grew up following in the footsteps of my two older sisters, Vicki and Judy, although being my father’s third daughter in a row, often made me wonder if he was secretly disappointed when I was born. However, I am told that when they placed me in my father’s arms and he carried me from the delivery room to the hospital nursery, it was love at first sight.

My sisters were my heroes and my playmates. Vicki, nine years older than me, had always longed for a cuddly, baby sister. Her dreams had vanished when Judy arrived three years later, who refused to be snuggled and caressed or be her baby-doll. So I became Vicki’s baby, carried around like a precious dolly. Competitive by nature, Judy attempted to imitate Vicki. Unfortunately with her short, petite frame, Judy ended up carrying me by my head! Amazingly I survived this contest for my love.

My sister Vicki was so competent in caring for me that eventually my mother gave into Vicki’s plea to be my babysitter, letting her tend me for short periods of time while she was away. Vicki insisted that the hired babysitters were insufficient and that she could do a much better job, and she did!

I remember fun times growing up together with my sisters. We would link arms, doing “Can-can” chorus line high kicks, singing the famous lyrics from the song, “Sisters, Sisters,” from Irving Berlin’s 1954 movie, White Christmas. Words like, “Sisters, sisters, there were never such devoted sisters,” and “Sharing, caring, every little thing that we are wearing,” are deeply embedded within the memory bank of my “Ya-Ya Sisterhood” days.

I was reminded this week of the numerous times my sister, Vicki, came to my rescue during and following childbirth. She was always there for me even though she was a young busy mother herself. I remember going into labor a week early with my daughter, Aleesha, following a bout of the flu. Vicki cleaned my house and did my wash while I was in the hospital (even all the little extras that sometimes get left in the bottom of the wash bin because you aren’t using them right now). My mother was taking care of my little boy, so Vicki appointed herself housekeeper and clothes washer. I can’t express how uplifting it was to come home to a freshly cleaned house and folded laundry neatly put away, after my rushed hospital entrance. Only another woman can understand how much the gift of cleanliness means to a tired new mom.

Another time I was having a miscarriage and my mother was out of town. I called Vicki and she came running . . . only to find me lightheaded, bleeding profusely, and reading a book called, “How to Clean Everything in your House.” Unable to do anything about the miscarriage I was obviously having, recognized from past experience, I’d decided to do something about my newly purchased, now blood splattered, bedspread and the red blood trail leading to the bathroom from my early morning dash of awakened realization. Obviously alarmed and realizing I was not thinking rationally, Vicki calmly told me to go to the hospital with Dale, and not to worry as she would take care of everything. There are not many people on the planet one can ask to clean up a blood stained bedroom, that at the time resembled more of a crime scene than an actual emergency. Only someone who loves you would do it without a second thought.

It was on an early Sunday morning this month, on November 1st, when my daughter, Ashley, had an unexpected hospital dash of her own. Expecting her second child, she was scheduled for a Tuesday morning C-section that week. All month long she had been preparing for the long awaited day. She had reorganized every room and closet in her home, washed baby clothes, bought the necessary new things, and set up the nursery. We’d joked that even though she was having another C-section, how wonderful it was to be able to know your delivery day and be so prepared. However, as life goes, her little boy, Isaac, became ill just before Halloween, three days before her scheduled delivery. Suddenly there were bathrooms to be re-sterilized, and sheets and towels to be laundered. She planned on doing it all Monday before her hospital entrance.

That Sunday when she called to say she was in labor and they were going to the hospital, I heard tears of mixed emotion in her voice. She had tried so hard to be prepared and have her home ready for her highly anticipated little baby bundle. Things were not going as planned and she felt disorganized, still needing to pack her son to stay with Grandma.

A few hours later all was right with the world as mother and new baby son were safely sleeping in her hospital room. Yet her sister, Rachel, felt the motherly emotion of knowing what’s it’s like to go into labor early, not as prepared as you’d hoped. Rachel and her husband, Gordon, made a trip to Ashley’s house for a quick “Merry Maid” service. Sheets and towels were laundered, carpets vacuumed and floors mopped. The kitchen and bathrooms sparkled and beds were made to perfection. No one but another mom could understand what a gift of love that was from one sister to another. “Sisters, sisters, there were never such devoted sisters!”

“Having a sister is like having a best friend you can't get rid of.
You know whatever you do, they'll still be there.” ~ Amy Li

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Smothered By Chocolate!


Nobody knows the “truffles” I've seen! It has been said that, “Man cannot live on chocolate alone, but woman sure can!” I’d have to agree. As a teenager I loved The Smothers Brothers, the lanky, crew cut, fresh-faced singing siblings. There was Tommy, the older, ‘dumber’ brother and Dicky, the annoyed straight man of the famous comedic duet. They would launch into a well-known folk song, only to have Tommy ruin it, much to the delight of the audience and the consternation of Dick. Song after song would come to an untimely demise by the sometimes innocent, sometimes gleefully naughty, antics of Tom. Every television variety show would come to a climactic war of words between the brothers, with Dick pointing out all of Tom’s flaws, shouting him down until Tommy would burst forth with, “Oh yeah? Well, Mom always liked you best,” bringing fits of laughter from the audience.

My favorite Smothers Brothers record was titled simply, “Chocolate,” deliciously hilarious with a visually delectable chocolate album cover. My favorite song, “I Fell into a Vat of Chocolate,” went like this:



Tom (singing): “I fell into a vat of chocolate. I fell into a vat of chocolate . . .”


Dick (singing): “What’d you do when you fell in the chocolate?”


Both: “La dee doo dum, la dee doo dum day.”


Tom (singing): “I yelled ‘FIRE’ when I fell into the chocolate!”


Dick (annoyed, singing): “Why’d you yell ‘fire’ when you fell into the chocolate?


Tom: “I yelled ‘fire’ ‘cause no one would help me if I yelled, ‘CHOCOLATE!’”


Both: “La dee doo dum, la dee doo dum day.”

I don't understand why so many "so called" chocolate lovers complain about the calories in chocolate, when all true chocoholics know that chocolate is a vegetable! Chocolate is derived from cocoa beans and beans are a vegetable. Furthermore, sugar is derived from either sugar cane or sugar beets. Both are plants, which places them in the vegetable category as well. Thus, chocolate is a vegetable.

So if you’re a chocolate lover and feel guilty as you devour each tasty morsel of sweetness, take reassurance in this timely message. After all, stress wouldn’t be so hard to take if it were chocolate covered. Furthermore, chocolate is cheaper than therapy and you don't need an appointment!

Chocolate is delicious, delectable, and soothing! And yes, American! Originally chocolate was a New World discovery, one of the most sought-after treasures in Europe, brought back from the brave new land across the Atlantic. It seems like everyday, there's a new report about a medical study confirming chocolate is, in fact, a health food. Don’t you just love the news stories that report it’s rich antioxidant goodness, cardiovascular health, and even diabetes strength? It’s just what chocolate lovers everywhere want to hear about this beloved American guilty pleasure. We want to be “smothered” in our own decadent vat of chocolate!

I could give up chocolate, but then I'm not a quitter. So remember, life can be hard, but chocolate definitely helps! In honor of the healing emotional affects of chocolate, here’s my favorite “Top 10 List of Chocolate Quotes.” Indulge in their chocolaty goodness and find yourself another reason to go for a piece of chocolate!

The Top 10 List of Chocolate Quotes:
1. “In the beginning, the Lord created chocolate, and he saw that it was good. Then he separated the light from the dark, and it was better.” ~ Author Unknown
2. “There are four basic food groups: Milk Chocolate, Dark Chocolate, White Chocolate, and Chocolate Truffles.” ~ Author Unknown
3. “Forget love . . . I'd rather fall in chocolate!!!” ~ Author Unknown
4. “Life is like a box of chocolates . . . You never know what you're gonna’ get!” ~ Forrest Gump (Tom Hanks)
5. “Make a list of important things to do today. At the top of your list put, 'Eat Chocolate.' Now, you'll get at least one thing done today!”
~ Gina Hayes
6. “There's nothing better than a good friend, except a good friend with chocolate!” ~ Linda Grayson, “The Pickwick Papers”
7. “The 12-Step Chocoholics Program: Never be more than 12 steps away from chocolate!” ~Terry Moore
8. “All I really need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt!” ~ Lucy Van Pelt in Peanuts by Charles M. Schulz
9. “Strength is the capacity to break a chocolate bar into four pieces with your bare hands and then eat just one of the pieces.” ~ Judith Viorst
10. “I have this theory that chocolate slows down the aging process. It may not be true, but do I dare take the chance?” ~ Author Unknown

*For a healthy Nature’s Sunshine Chocolate bar, made with Xylitol, click here. Xylitol is an organic compound, naturally occurring sugar substitute, found in the fibers of many fruits and vegetables.

Monday, October 19, 2009

On This Day: Remembering Judy

Pictured: My dad carrying Judy as I look on.

On the historic date of October 17th, Doris Humphrey, choreographer, dancer, and writer was born (October 17, 1895); American film star, actress, and dancer, Rita Hayworth, the legendary Hollywood beauty, was born (October 17, 1918); Physicist and renowned genius, Albert Einstein, arrived in the United States as a refugee from Nazi Germany (October 17, 1933); Evel Knievel, motorcycle daredevil, was born (October 17, 1838); Jimmy Seals, singer, songwriter, and one half of the successful soft rock band “Seals and Croft” was born (October 17, 1941); and the famous actress, Ava Gardner, and jazz composer and bandleader, Artie Shaw, were married (October 17, 1945). More recently, Mother Teresa, of India, was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for her work on behalf of the destitute in Calcutta (October 17, 1979).

However, on October 17, 1945, a historic event occurred in my family of origin when my older sister, Judy, was born. She was a dancer, actress, singer, acrobat novas, comic, teacher, treasured friend, loving mother and beloved wife. I called her “sister.”

Judy had carrot red hair and a personality to match! She was a petite 4’ 10” and I was a tall 5’ 7”, a virtual giant in my mind, standing next to her. I loved being with her. She made things happen and she pushed me to do more . . . to be more.

My sister Judy was five years older than me. Our parents spaced their children rather far apart. There was a three-year space following the birth of my older sister, Vicki, before Judy was born. Five years later I arrived, five more years brought my younger brother, Devro, and then finally seven years later, my little sister, Loni, completed our family.

Judy was full of energy! She loved people and she was always busy with lots of activity. She loved to dance. Judy had Perthes disease when she was young, a disorder of the hip in young children. Many theories have been proposed as to the cause of the disease, including inflammation, infection, trauma, and even “hip problems” noted at birth. Whatever the cause, my parents were told Judy would always walk with a limp. However, Judy didn’t let the disease stop her. She wore her crutches to school and let the other kids try them out while she hopped around. She claimed they even made her popular! However it was dancing lessons that eventually created magic in her life and a miracle in her body. Her bones fused in such a way that she could walk and dance with grace. When the doctors examined the x-rays of her hip, they couldn’t understand why she didn’t walk with a limp.

I was shocked the day our Judy died. Even though she had a serious form of Leukemia, I had not expected her death. No one in our family did. We rationalized that something that unthinkable couldn’t happen again in our family, remembering the toxemia related death of my sister-in-law Gayle and her baby, Skyler. Besides Judy’s husband, Neal, was so spiritual – the bishop in their ward. He had promised she’d be all right and I believed him. We all wanted to believe him. We were not prepared to lose a sibling, a daughter, a friend, wife and mother. I was angry with Neal for a long time following her death because he didn’t seem to display any guilt for the decision he’d helped her make to have the bone marrow transplant. I couldn’t feel his pain, only my own. However, we all felt guilt, each in his or her own way . . . for bone marrow not good enough, for time not spent together, and for silly arguments of long ago. We felt guilt that we didn’t know there wouldn’t be time for all the things we’d planned to do and say. I will never forget the shock on her children’s faces when they were brought to the hospital to view their mother. She had passed away earlier in the day and appeared to be sleeping peacefully, as the midday sun shown through her hospital window. Her five children were young, ranging in ages 4-15 and as I watched them gather around her lifeless body, I realized they were as unprepared as I was.

On September 10, 1986, twenty-three years ago, at the age of 40, my sister, Judy moved on to her heavenly home after her valiant battle. I was in her hospital room as she passed from this life into the next one. Only Neal, our mother, a nurse, and I, watched helplessly as she quietly slipped away. I’d arrived at the hospital only minutes before. I remember frantically trying to put on the protective clothing required by the hospital before entering the sanitary environment. My mother motioned to me to abandon the task, to come quickly. With tears blurring my eyes, I entered her room and reached for her tiny petite hand. Her eyes were closed and the only sound in the room was from the quiet hum of the machine she was hooked up to. As I took her small hand, I gently whispered, “It’s Linda, Judy, I’m here.” I felt the slightest squeeze of my hand, and then she was gone. I remember that moment as clearly as if it was yesterday. It was the first time in my life I had complete confirmation of life after death. I felt the spirit in the room and knew others were there to guide her home. Tears still well up in my eyes when I write or think about that day.

I have been told that earlier in that day, Judy opened her eyes and complained about the noise in her room, asking her husband to please tell everyone to be quiet. He was confused, as the room was silent with only the soft hum of the hospital machine. He assured her that there was no one in the room talking. That day, as she lay dying, the spirit testified to me of our life before this one. My family is noisy and when we get together we all talk at once, excited to share our news. I wonder if the talking, noisy people she referred to were all of our noisy ancestors, excited and preparing for her return, just as we anticipate and enthusiastically prepare for a new baby.

Last Saturday, October 17, 2009, Judy would have been 64 years old. I had a dream about Judy last week. It seemed so real, like I was really with her. She came to see me and Neal was with her, his arms around her shoulders. He was grinning from ear to ear and he was so happy. I was surprised to see her and couldn't believe she was real. I threw my arms around her hugging her tightly and she felt as real to my touch as anyone on earth! Perhaps that's what the resurrection will feel like.

Someone once told me, “We can’t heal our pain until we can find gratitude for the trial or experience that gave us the sadness.” I used to think, “I’ll be grateful when this trial is finally over!” Who knew that losing my sister would be the beginning of understanding the gift of gratitude and unconditional love? The Savior taught us to love one another unconditionally. It seems like a simple gospel principle. Now I know it is an essential principle and the one that will guide us safely home.

In Loving Memory of Judy: October 17, 1945 – September 10, 1986

Friday, October 16, 2009

Healing Our Family History

I have gradually been reading a book titled, “Healing Your Family History: 5 Steps to Break Free of Destructive Patterns,” by Rebecca Linder Hintz, and slowly contemplating it’s message content. The forward of this book is written by Stephen R. Covey, author of the best selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. “Healing Your Family History” comes highly recommended by Stephen Covey along with music celebrity, Marie Osmond and renowned MD, Christiane Northrup. I’m a fan of this book as well, having discovered some interesting patterns within my own family history.

I read a lot of different kinds of books during this particular season of my life, something I rarely did while raising my children. Back then I generally read ‘self help’ and ‘parenting’ books. However, thanks to the newly invented Kindle Reader (for more information click here), I have rediscovered reading for pleasure again, like I did during my teenage years. The books I enjoy reading usually fall into two basic categories: candy and chocolate. Some books are like sugary candy, a sweet treat that you must keep eating until it is consumed. While others are like decadent dark chocolate, something that must be savored over time. The book “Healing Your Family History” is like dark chocolate. It needs to be studied, pondered, and actively participated in to reap it’s full benefits. There are even worksheets included within its thought-provoking pages.

I have been reading this book along with writing my own history, a work still in progress. I have also been dabbling in researching and recording some of the histories of my ancestors. I’m especially drawn to the incredibly strong women I have descended from. I’ve discovered the truths in the following quote for myself, in being able to understand ‘who we are’ by understanding them:

“Something deep within us wants to connect with those who went before us: our parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and other family members. When we know who they are—their life stories, their triumphs and failures, their strengths and weaknesses—we gain a better sense of who we are. In a sense, their stories become our stories. We not only learn from them, we feel strengthened and inspired by their lives and experiences. We may even find ourselves thinking, ‘If they could do difficult things, so can I.’ With just a little effort, we can come to know and love those whose lives flow directly into ours.” ~ Lloyd D. Newell, Music and the Spoken Word

One of the many fascinating discoveries I’ve realized from pondering this book, is an interesting attitude that seems to have been passed down through the generations. This discovery about my female ancestors is only my opinion, but one that I find intriguing!

Since I wrote my little “Run-a-way Bride” blog on my anniversary (click here for blog entry), I've had some interesting discussions and thoughts that have brought about my recent revelation. I thought I was the only run-a-way bride in the family with fear of commitment. Then I discovered an aunt that also had a run-a-way bride story, and after a discussion with my younger sister I realized that all my siblings had fears of commitment as well. The fears go back to my mother, my grandmother and even way back to my great, great grandmother, who was probably the most reluctant bride of all! 



I've grown to love this great, great grandmother named, Emma, who made impetuous choices that she later regretted. There are so many lessons of life consequences, strength, and courage within her story. She was told it wasn’t proper to be running around the way she did, that she needed to marry the man who loved her or become one of the polygamous wife's of Wilford Woodruff, causing her to reluctantly choose the former. She gave birth to her first child just two months after her marriage date, obviously pregnant before marriage, an occurrence quite scandalous in the days before Hollywood made it appear acceptable. Of course things of that delicate nature were never discussed in that era. [I just finished reading Little Women again. There is no mention of Meg’s pending pregnancy until the twin babies are born, as “one does not speak of such things!”]

It is interesting to me how our fears get passed down through generations of DNA. That must be why it's so important to do our family history . . . so we can heal our hearts and theirs! What a glorious reunion that will be in heaven when we all understand one another in love without judgement!

I think my husband, Dale, understands that my run-a-way bride story had nothing to do with not loving him . . . just a fear of losing myself and my own dreams! He can't resist teasing me about it though. Recently I discovered a 40s song called, "Linda," that is so cute. When Dale heard it he said, "Hey that's me. That could have been my theme song in high school!" Here are some of the words he was referring to:

When I go to sleep, 

I never count sheep, 

I count all the charms about Linda. 

And lately it seems, 

In all of my dreams, 

I walk with my arms about Linda. 

But what good does it do me? 

For Linda doesn’t know that I exist. 

Can't help feeling gloomy, 

Think of all the lovin' I've missed!

I was truly afraid if I got married I would just have children, never graduating from college or being able to teach and travel. I wanted to travel and see far away places. However, my fears were needless. I married and still graduated from BYU, and that education has been such a blessing in my life. My six children were planned by choice and I have been able to travel with my husband, Dale, to some exciting places that have given me wonderful memories. My Dale is a fun traveling companion. I’ve taught preschool and taught in the church “because" of marriage, not in spite of it.

I come from a legacy of strong willed women who are stubborn and get what they want! Thats a great legacy of Family History!

“There's a story behind everything . . . How a picture got on a wall, how a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother's story because hers is where yours begins.” ~ Mitch Albom, For One More Day

“To heal our world, we must heal our families!” ~ Stephen Covey

“Healing our family’s history is key to getting better ourselves.”
~ Rebecca Linder Hintze, Healing Your Family History

“Every woman who heals herself helps heal all the women who came before her and all those who will come after her!” ~ Dr. Christiana Northrup, MD

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Bugs Love Me!

We all want to love and to be loved, an innate instinct most of us are born with. Love is one of mankind’s strongest desires. Humans search for it longingly, end up in therapy when it is denied, and even murder one another for it, as is evident on the evening news. Love and hate are powerful words and are often used simultaneously, referencing the same object of affection. However all love is not requited. Sometimes those we love do not love us in return and those who seek our attention go unnoticed and rejected.

In my case, bugs love me! This is disturbing on so many levels, given my Lyme disease carrying tick bite that went unnoticed and was never formerly requested. I have had a long unreciprocated love affair with bugs. I hate bugs, but unfortunately they have always loved me.

One might ask why this affection? It is a mystery to me. Long before my tick incident, mosquitoes loved me. Is it my pale white, transparent Norwegian skin that makes me an easy target, as these blood sucking long legged flies penetrate my skin? Perhaps it is my particular brand of blood, sweeter than most and tantalizing to their insect taste-buds. As an example, if my husband, Dale, and I were driving in a car with three mosquito passengers, I would return home with three mosquito bites, more than likely excessively swelled and itching intensely. Dale would return unscathed, as if riding with butterflies.

Bugs love me! And now, much to my dismay, household flies, probably mosquito cousins having been sent in search of me, love me too. They don’t just fly around my nose and ears searching for entry. They have adopted me as their pet, sitting defiantly on my hands and wrists as I type, refusing to leave or be swatted away. They seem to know I can’t chase them down in my condition and they seek refuge and solitude with me. When Dale enters the room intent on their demise, they disappear like ghosts in the night, leaving me as the only testimony of their existence. Lately, while I am alone with my torturous flies, I have taken to yelling at them in a stern voice of authority, letting them know I am serious about wanting them to depart. I say, “Go away! Leave me alone! I hate you . . . you miserable excuse for an insect!” They don’t listen. They are not like houseplants that wither and die when unkind words are continuously projected towards them. My flies just sit and bask in the love-hate relationship we have developed. I have unkind thoughts towards them and do not mourn their deaths. I know there is a purpose for everything, but could somebody tell me, why flies? Why bugs? Bugs love me! Their love is unreturned.

“God in His wisdom made the fly, and then forgot to tell us why!”
~ Ogden Nash, “The Fly”

“We hope that, when the insects take over the world, they will remember with gratitude how we took them along on all our picnics. ~ Richard Vaughan

“Some days you're a bug, some days you're a windshield.”
~ Price Cobb

Saturday, September 26, 2009

The Bear Necessities of Life!

“In a world where everyone seems to be larger and louder than yourself, it is very comforting to have a small, quiet companion.” ~ Peter Gray

I used to run a preschool in my home named, “The Teddy Bear Preschool,” addressing the “Bear Necessities of Life,” a subtitle created from the music of the movie, Jungle Book. I’m not sure when my obsession with teddy bears began, but somehow over the years it grew into a full blown addiction! Maybe it began when I was a young mother with my two year old son, Cordale, sitting beside me on the couch nursing his beloved teddy bear, “Hank,” while I nursed his new baby sister, Aleesha. Perhaps it began much earlier, as a young child, tucking in my assorted stuffed animals in bed with me at night, hoping to hide my favorite long-haired, yellow kitty from my roommate, a teenage sister with a cat paranoia! Maybe I transferred her nightmare fear of cats into a cuddly teddy bear love.

I recall taking a VERY large Teddy Bear named, “HB” (abbreviation for “Huggy Bear”) with me to college, a hand-me-down from my sister, Judy, engaged to be married and ridding herself of old boyfriend memorabilia. HB became a symbol of love and a secretly murmured humorous nickname for one of my clueless college roommate’s boyfriends, when she’d mysteriously disappear for hours every weekend on their dates to make-out mountain!

College HB led to an even bigger adult bear obsession, when as a mother I shopped for special teddy bears at Christmas time, excited when I qualified for “four” store bear give-a-ways one year, enough for all my little girls! To be fair, my husband, Dale, was an enabler, indulging me with gifts of stuffed bears for Christmas and other holidays. On one particular Christmas my daughter, Ashley, and I received “twin” bear gifts, mine from Dale, hers gifted from her brother, Cord. A year later, Ashley sat hugging her well loved, dingy white teddy bear, looking up at my still sparkling white, clean teddy bear, safely out of reach adorning my upper bookshelf, and exclaimed with sadness in her voice, “I feel sorry for your teddy bear. It never gets loved or played with.”

One of the books that I used to read to my children was called, “Ted E. Bear Finds Christmas,” by Diane Mayfield. I liked the clever title and named my Teddy Bear Preschool “bear puppet” the name as well. Ted E. Bear taught the preschoolers their alphabet letter of the week, with an appropriate rhyming song. He was a clever, intelligent bear indeed!

My preschool fulfilled all my bear needs for a while, with bear alphabet and number decorations, bear calendar and weather bear, bear coat hooks, bear name tags, bear snack crackers, bear bingo markers, Teddy Bear Newsletter, worksheet bear stamps, and the teddy bear book bags, professionally stenciled and crafted on my home serger. Each year my little bear preschool began with a teddy bear open house with bear “dot to dot” take homes and homemade teddy bear suckers. I decorated a teddy bear Christmas tree for the preschool holiday bear program. In the spring we had a teddy bear picnic with teddy bear shaped Rice Krispie treats. The year always ended with teddy bear graduation, featuring my preschooler bear singers and a bear diploma. Finally, as all good things eventually come to an end, the Teddy Bear Preschool doors closed when I decided to have one more baby and build the preschool area of my basement into another bedroom. However, my farewell to bears and the storing away of my preschool bear paraphernalia opened up the door to a whole new bear obsession.

“Beanie Babies,” specifically bears, made by Ty from the original beanie babies collection, made their debut into my life when my daughter, Elizabeth, went to college and brought home my very first beanie bear. It appeared to be a fun, harmless collectable, only $5.00. My heart warming inexpensive treasure was a snow white colored bear with black eyes, brown nose, little bear ears and tail, with a red “heart” embroidered on his chest. He was adorned with a scarlet ribbon around his neck, romantically named, “Valentino,” appropriately dated with the birth of February 14, 1994. I DO love clever names and marketing ploys for adorable inanimate objects. I was hooked! More than a century later I have an overwhelming amount of beanie bears for every holiday and special occasion imaginable. Finally I have taken the pledge, joining “Bears Anonymous,” a club that exists only in my mind. I have vowed a “no bears for me” policy. For once you have run out of room on the collectable shelf of life, having hideous amounts of other bears stored in boxes, with no more room for display, it is time to openly recognize you have an addiction and quit! Of course I can’t guarantee there won’t be an occasional emotional relapse with a chewy gummy bear, or my favorite, a delicious chocolate cinnamon bear! And yes, if you’re wondering, I DO have a “build-a-bear,” (two) with clothing and accessories. Because some things really are the “Bear Necessities of Life!”

“Everything in life I share, except of course my teddy bear!”
~ Unknown

“Bears are just about the only toy that can lose just about everything and still maintain their dignity and worth.” ~ Samantha Armstrong

“When everyone else has let you down, there's always Ted.”
~ Clara Ortega

“Teddy bears don't need hearts as they are already stuffed with love!” ~ Author Unknown

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Pollyanna and the Grinch

“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to
love their mother!” ~ Theodore Hesburgh

My parents are a combination of the fictional character, “Pollyanna,” from the famous Disney movie, Pollyanna, and the cartoon character, “Grinch,” from Dr. Seuss’s The Grinch Who Stole Christmas! When I was growing up my mother, Shirley, had dark, almost black hair, not yet grayed from age. I thought she was beautiful like my sister, Vicki. Mom was a gifted, and talented seamstress. She could look at a dress in a magazine and recreate the design using various pattern pieces. My mother must have “sang and shouted for joy” when she knew she was coming to earth to receive a body, as she could literally sing and mesmerize audiences with her vocal performances. Everything about my mother is cultured and refined. She loves theater, art, and literature. Having been unable to go to college, my mother sought education through local college education classes and through books. As a young mother, her bishop told her that she was raising five, very special spirits and she should strive to obtain more knowledge.

My mother taught her children truths and values by writing, relating stories about her life and others she’d known. She used her storytelling skills to write road-shows and plays for local youth performances and later she wrote romantic novels. When my parents built the house I grew up in, mom helped design and decorate it. She was the mother everyone else wanted and I was the envied daughter who actually thought she was cool! She’d often tuck me in bed with her late at night after my father left for work, and we’d watch old black and white movies. My mother loved good movies, especially the ones with well written stories, noble characters, and a moral message. I loved all the honorable, virtuous, classical old movies of her generation. To this day I am transformed by a good story with principled heros and heroines.

My mother is a perpetual optimist. She is Pollyanna and the “glad game,” the author of positive thinking. She has always given me hope and continuously lifted me to greater heights with her never-ending belief in an eventual happily ever after ending!

Humorously, for everything my mother represented while I was growing up, my father, Milton, appeared to be the polar opposite! How they came to have five children with him working hard at night and into the late afternoons, and her staying up late into the wee hours of the morning working on projects, is a mystery, if not a miracle! In his youth, my father, Milt, was a shy, fair haired, blond with wavy hair. However, by the time I met him, the curls had thinned and all but vanished. I thought he was extraordinarily handsome. Best of all, his dry sense of humor kept his children laughing and my mother often apologizing, when his tall tales and seemingly harmless chauvinistic jokes embarrassed her.

High priority on my father’s list of talents was his lifetime love of fishing. Fishing, and his great love for the sport, soared foremost above all of my father’s other passions and interests. He and his father and two brothers more than likely fished every fishing hole from Utah to Wyoming. Our monetary purchases were measured by the dozens of donuts he’d need to make in his chosen bakery profession, but our life values were analogized in humorous quotes about fish. Dad had a fishing joke for every occasion. My father truly was an amazing fisherman and he kept us supplied with an impressive “catch of the day,” although we were mostly unappreciative having usually witnessed the final demise as he gutted, cleaned, and prepared the slimy vertebrate. It was not until I began reading my mother’s history later in life that I realized how often my father went fishing. His long, continuous days of hard work were peppered with his needed and much deserved, fishing stress releaser. However in the days before cell phone and easy phone access, I’m sure my mother spent many desperate, if not lonely hours, handling life’s crises, unable to reach my father.

To my hardworking father, his work was his play, and he was an excellent provider in the days where men were expected to “bring home the bacon” to their stay at home wives who would “fry it up in a pan.” So why did I think of him as the Grinch to my mother’s Pollyanna? Not only were my parents complete opposites in their cultural likes and dislikes, they had contrasting senses of humor! Dad loved to tease my mother and give her the exact opposite reaction than she was looking for. This generous, loving man, who denied us nothing, loved to be the pretend “ba humbug” in my mother’s Christmas, much to my delight and the laughter of my siblings! Now retired and plagued with dementia, my father’s former life has changed. However, his sense of humor is still there, evident by the way he rolls his eyes and by the funny comments mumbled beneath his breath.

When I was a child, I admired my parents and wanted to be just like them. As I grew to maturity, I wanted to be different, better somehow. I would certainly never give the tired old speeches I’d grown up with! Then one day I caught myself saying something to one of my adult children that my mother would have said, realizing at the same time that I’d turned into my mother. Suddenly, it wasn’t such a bad thing after all!

Dedicated to my 87 year old parents for their 68th Wedding Anniversary (September 17, 1941).

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Understanding a Woman

A man walking along a California beach was deep in prayer. Suddenly the sky clouded above his head and in a booming voice the Lord said, “Because you have tried to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.”

Excitedly, the man said, “Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive over anytime I want.” 


Disappointed, the Lord said, “Your request is very materialistic. Think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking. Consider the supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Why don’t you take a little more time and think of something that would honor and glorify me?”

The man sincerely thought about it for a long time. Finally he said, “Lord, I wish that I could understand my wife! I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says, 'nothings wrong' and how I can make a woman truly happy.”

The Lord replied, “You want two lanes or four on that bridge?”

Definitions of Nine Words Women Use:

1. FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to stop talking.

2. FIVE MINUTES: If she is getting dressed, this means half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. NOTHING: This is the ‘calm’ before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

4. GO AHEAD: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

5. LOUD SIGH: This is not actually a word, but a nonverbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. THAT’S OKAY: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. THANKS: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say, “You're welcome.” (I want to add in a clause here. This is true, unless she says, “Thanks a lot,” which is PURE sarcasm and she is NOT thanking you at all. DO NOT say, “You're welcome,” as that will bring on a “whatever”).

8. WHATEVER: This is a subtle way a woman has of saying GO TO XXXX!!!
9. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, I GOT IT: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking, “What's wrong?” For the woman's response refer to #3.


“Women are meant to be loved . . . not to be understood!” ~ Oscar Wilde

Monday, September 7, 2009

The History of Medicine

Recently I was searching the Internet for a specific Lyme protocol using my favorite new doTERRA essential oils. Instead, I was gifted with a current Lyme protocol and study using my recently discovered Nature’s Sunshine products. Along with the discovery I came across this humorous treasure, “The History of Medicine.” To all those with difficult health issues, navigating the challenging road to wellness . . . Enjoy!

The History of Medicine

• 2000 BC: “Here, eat this root.”
• 1000 AD: “That root is heathen. Here, say this prayer.”
• 1850 AD: “That prayer is superstition. Here, drink this potion.”
• 1940 AD: “That potion is snake oil. Here, swallow this pill.”
• 1985 AD: “That pill is ineffective. Here, take this antibiotic.”
• 2009 AD: “That antibiotic is artificial and does not work anymore. Here, eat this root!”
~ Dr Richard Horowitz, Hyde Park, NY

Saturday, August 29, 2009

On The Wings Of Prayer


And he hears every prayer and answers each one,
When we pray in His name, ‘Thy will be done.’
The burdens that seemed too heavy to bear,
Are lifted away on the wings of a prayer!
~ Helen Steiner Rice
The ending words of this famous poem entitled, “On the Wings of a Prayer,” by Helen Steiner Rice, remind me of the summer I spent working in Bear Lake, Utah, where I experienced my own little miracle on the wings of my mother’s prayer.

The two summers following my 16th birthday were spent working at “Ideal Beach Family Resort,” in Bear Lake, Utah, where my family owned a nearby summer cabin. The first summer I worked at the penny candy and ice cream counter, occasionally filling in at the reservation desk. It was a dream job for a penny candy lover and ice cream fan. I really enjoyed talking to the beach vacationers, especially the young guys who would flock to the lodge lounge to hang out. I quickly became an expert at soft twist ice-cream cones, a combination of chocolate and vanilla ice cream. I could make a perfect swirl!

The second summer I worked in Bear Lake, however, marks a space and time I will never forget. It was the summer of my prayer miracle! I was working in the resort’s cafe as a waitress, wearing a red and white, tightly waisted candy stripper uniform, which I loved. Every morning I’d ride our family’s 15-mile-per-hour motor scooter three miles to the small Laketown, Utah gas station. What a thrill for a girl without personal wheels of her own! (In reality I could have run the distance faster if I’d wanted to arrive smelling like sweat.)

After my morning excursion I would park my little scooter at the local gas station and catch a ride to the other side of the lake with the cafe cook, an older woman that lived in Laketown. I loved working with Elma, who was hardworking, witty and efficient. She said I was a good worker and her kind words gave me confidence in my ability.

The cafe was located on the beach, with large picture windows overlooking the crystal blue Bear Lake water. Often when we’d arrive for work there would be couples sleeping together on the beach in the same sleeping bag. Fingers pointed and eyebrows raised at that shocking display in the very conservative, highly religious town. It was disgraceful behavior in that corner of the planet, even for the 60s!

That summer turned out to be a nightmare for my mother, as she was torn between wanting to be in Bear Lake with me and her responsibilities in Salt Lake City, Utah, where we lived during the school year. I was often at the cabin with just my dad, an 18-hour a day, hardworking wintertime father, who made donuts for the school snack bars during the school year. His school teacher’s hours allowed us to spend summers at the cabin, where he enjoyed fishing nearly every day. Fishing took him from the far corners of Bear Lake’s deep waters to Wyoming's finest fishing holes. So occasionally I found myself alone at our cabin, although I don’t remember feeling scared or apprehensive at our quiet lake-shore home. The lake wasn’t crowded in those days and there was a kind, old couple that lived next door in a pink house. Unlike the summer vacationers, they lived there all year long, keeping a beautiful garden, an unusual addition in the middle of summer cabins and trailer homes.

Previously to that particular summer I’d had bouts of childhood asthma, usually triggered by pollen from outdoor bushes and weeds. I’d also survived the typical childhood diseases of the day, such as, chicken pox, mumps, and two kinds of measles. However those illnesses were nothing in comparison to the terrible pneumonia I got that summer in Bear Lake. I arrived home one night after work to find the cabin locked and my dad still fishing. My mother, who had taken my two younger siblings home with her to Salt Lake, was delayed in getting back to the lake because my baby sister, Loni, was ill. Dad had forgotten to leave me a key before he’d left that morning and the cabin’s metal doors and strong windows were locked up tight. I waited for my fathers return on the outdoor patio furniture. Unfortunately, soon I was waiting in a thunder and rainstorm, chilled and freezing by the time Dad arrived.

The next day at work I began to feel lightheaded and shaky, as my chest began to tighten, making it difficult to breath. The cafe was never very crowded on weekdays, so I was the only waitress working that day. I remember grabbing the coffee pot to pour a 10¢ cup of coffee for my one and only gentleman customer. Suddenly I began shaking so intensely that I dropped the entire pot as I pulled it from the coffee machine! Hot coffee and broken glass went everywhere, but somehow missed my startled customer. (Later, after I’d recovered and returned to work, I discovered he’d left me a dollar sympathy tip for a 10¢ cup of coffee! It was a large tip for the times and unheard of at the beach!)

After dropping the coffee pot, I remember nothing but calling my mother from the front desk. She could tell by my voice that something was wrong. She said, “Linda? You are sick!” I was really ill and I started to cry. Mom told me to get Grandpa Pulsipher, the resort owner’s father, to give me a ride to our cabin. She instructed me to get into bed and she’d find some way of getting me home.

At the time my Aunt Claudia and her young family were living with us in Salt Lake City, while they were building a new home. My mom had returned home after hosting a Bear Lake party for their Salt Lake neighbors. The weather in Bear Lake was somewhat unpredictable and it had suddenly turned cold while my younger siblings were still in bathing suits. Loni, showed early signs of pneumonia and my mother wanted to get her home to our family doctor. The only medical facility close to Bear Lake was in Logan, where there was a very small hospital. I needed to stay and work, so mom had left my dad to handle everything in Bear Lake. Although my father was an early bird riser, to insure the best catch of the day, he was usually home early in the evening. However, fishing was as unpredictable as the weather, depending on how the fish were biting, and Dad could never be reached. How my mother would have cherished the cell phones we have available to us today!

My mother didn’t know what to do, as she had no way to contact my dad, who was oblivious to her predicament. My mother has always been a very prayerful person and so she quickly said a prayer under her breath, enlisting the Lord for help and inspiration. Suddenly she remembered that my Uncle Burns, her sister Maurine’s husband, had been taking flying lessons and Maurine had mentioned that he’d just received his pilot’s license! Mom called Uncle Burns, asking him to fly her to Bear Lake to get me. Uncle Burns had very little solo flying experience and the airplanes he flew were very small, but reluctantly he agreed to do it. Mom arranged to meet him at the airport. Mother’s other problem was leaving my little sister, who was also very ill. My Aunt Claudia was frightened about being left with a child that was so sick, but my mother assured her she’d be back before her baby aspirin wore off, secretly hoping for a miracle that would let her reach me and bring me home in time.

Mom met Uncle Burns at the airport and the adventure began. It is important to note that there were three distinct miracles that occurred from this point on. The first miracle occurred after they’d been flying for a while. They had difficulty reading the map and discovered they were lost. Suddenly the gas needle began acting strangely and Uncle Burns couldn’t contact the airport on the radio. Afraid he might not have enough gas to reach Bear Lake and get back home again, Uncle Burns considered turning back. My mother knew nothing about airplanes or even how to read maps, but she refused to give up. She was determined to get to me. She said, “Burns, please say a prayer and bless the needle!”

Uncle Burns looked at Mom a little strangely, but he could see she was desperate so he said a prayer and blessed the needle. As mom bowed her head, she noticed the map he’d been looking at was on the floor in front of her. She picked it up and observed that one area of the plot said “static” and she asked Uncle Burns what it meant. Suddenly comprehending the undetected information staring him in the face, he said it meant that if they were over that area there could be problems with the needle! He started working with the radio again and miraculously began to pick up reception from another station. Just then my mother looked out the window and recognized Bear River. “Look Burns, there’s Bear River and you can follow it,” she said. They followed the river and soon recognized the highway that would take them right to our cabin.

At this point in time, they knew they would have to land in the empty field at the end of the lake and without a car they would have to walk all the way to the cabin, at least three miles. Time was running short. My mother needed to get back home before my little sister woke up again, so walking was a concern. Here is where miracle number two occurred. Just as they landed and got out of the plane, a car came along the normally lonely, untraveled road. It was one of my parent’s neighbors from Salt Lake! He stopped for Mom and Uncle Burns and gave them a ride to our cabin. Mom invited the neighbor in for watermelon, leftover from their previous party and he offered to wait and give them a ride back to the airplane.

I was unaware of any of these advents or even that my mom was coming in an airplane. Here is where miracle number three took place. Mom walked into the cabin and called out to me. Aroused from my sick and dreamlike state, I said, “Oh Mom! I had a dream! I dreamed you got Uncle Burns to fly you here and get me!”

We had never talked about Uncle Burns learning to fly or getting his pilot's license, so there was no way I could have known about that remote possibility. I had never even been in an airplane. Many times in my life, since that day, I have been blessed with dreams that can only be explained as visionary. Now I know that heaven’s angelic messengers have chosen this way to communicate with me and ease my fears. I am a visual person, so perhaps this is how I understand best.

My mother, who lost her own mother early in her young married life, learned to rely on the Lord. Her undying faith and a gentle prayer sent heavenly messengers to help us when all hope was wavering. I know the power of prayer and the miracles that occurred that day on the wings of my mother’s prayer. My angels continue to watch over me today, sending reassurance when comfort is needed.